I have been focusing lately on how a person can make lasting changes in their life, especially when starting at a later time in life. There are so many obstacles and uncertainty to go through and unfortunately, we tend to focus more on the obstacles rather than in the desired outcome we would love to have and/ or achieve.
Having done extensive research on this, I have come into a very interesting ways of doing things. There seems to be evidence that Formula 1 drivers are taught to concentrate and focus on ‘the clearing’ when they lose control on their vehicle and not on the wall ahead of them. This exercise tends to make the brain prompt to finding that clearing and not hitting the wall when they face this challenge when driving. A very simple, yet powerful step to take into account and focus on our desired outcomes rather than in the obstacles we are facing. By focusing on the desired outcome, our brain will help us get there.
In my own experience, I find it quite hard to maintain focus on my outcomes as sometimes my state of mind is not in the right place, this means; I have a lot of work (my actual job) to do before I can focus on what I want to do (my aspiring other job), I also need to and I want to spend time with my family and these feelings start piling up, making it hard to focus on the outcomes I wan to achieve. So, what to do? How to keep your focus when your state of mind is so busy with things you have to do? Firstly, have a routine and plan your day, days, be disciplined. Start by making your bed as Admiral McRaven from the US Navy once said. Write down what must be done to get where you want to be. There is a connection between having a plan in your head and writing things down in order to achieve them.
Another great advice I was given is to read about people who have already done what you want to do. By doing this, you can then easily follow their steps and avoid the mistakes they made to get to your goals faster. This is a wise advice from my personal idol Tony Robbins. His life is the proof of what he does actually work! I only got to know about him last August and his work is amazing.
You may be thinking, how does this help me change my beliefs? Well, by starting to take little steps you will start to notice that taking a bigger step later on is not as scary as you thought. This will help you build your confidence and make you more determined to succeed and achieve your goals. Another highly recommended technique to help you not overthink what you do and take action is to apply the 5 seconds rules by Mel Robbins. Her book is great and a gem to own and keep it as a reference.
In a very simplistic explanation, every time you struggle with something, just count backwards 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1 and just do it! Start by doing this when the alarm goes off in the morning for instance. It will not automatically make you jump wit joy out of bed but it will start make you do things without overthinking them or refrain you from taking action.
These are small steps that will help you get closer to your desired outcomes. Don’t wait another day, just 5-4-3-2-1 and start today!